Family Violence


The Bay of Plenty District Health Board (BOPDHB) provides consultation, support, education and liaison with community & statutory agencies with regard to all family violence issues.

  • Child Abuse and Neglect (CAN)
  • Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)
  • Older adult and Vulnerable Adult

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Key points to remember:

  • family violence is common in New Zealand
  • family violence is violence between people with a close personal relationship - it affects women, children, men, young and old
  • family violence can take many forms - it can be physical, sexual, emotional and economic. This includes intimidation, harassment, damage to property, or threats of physical, sexual or psychological abuse
  • if you feel afraid of your partner, controlled or always put down, this is family violence
  • help is available - call the Family Violence Information Line on 0800 456 450 or call Shine's national helpline on 0508 74 46 33


  • Safe to talk - national sexual harm website/phone and text service

  • Rape prevention education - A NZ website which is a source of local statistics and facts re. sexual violence 

  • It's not OK - A NZ website which is a source of facts, information and other useful resources re: family violence

Child Abuse and Neglect (CAN)

Child abuse is:

The harming, ill treatment, abuse, neglect or deprivation of any child or young person.

  • If you or a child are in immediate danger, call the police on 111 within New Zealand

Should you ever have concerns for the safety of a child/young person with regards to possible abuse or neglect then please contact:

Ministry for Children Oranga Tamariki (MCOT) on 0508 FAMILY (326459).



Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)

Intimate partner violence describes physical, sexual, or psychological harm by a current or former partner or spouse. This type of violence can occur among heterosexual or same-sex couples and does not require sexual intimacy.

In New Zealand (NZ) at least one woman in three experience family violence including physical, sexual, and psychological abuse. 

In an unhealthy relationship there is...

  • lack of trust and openness between two people
  • one person has power over the other
  • one person is physically, sexually and emotionally hurtful to the other.

Partner abuse can be when your partner…

  • controls the finances
  • does not allow you to do things like get a job
  • stops you seeing family and friends
  • uses insults like calling you fat, lazy, stupid, ugly, a slut or other names that make you feel bad
  • is very jealous
  • threatens to leave, kill or hurt you or the children
  • threatens or hurts the family pets
  • slaps, hits, punches, chokes, pushes, burns you or the children
  • hurts or threatens you or the children with weapons or objects
  • forces you into sexual acts you don't want by threats, coercion or physical force
  • destroys property
  • Takes away the car keys.


A person is responsible for his/her own behaviour.

No one deserves to be abused, everyone deserves equal respect.

No partner in a relationship has the right to dominate or abuse another.

Where can I go for help?

Help is available.

If you or your children are affected by family violence, or if you want help with your behavior, call:

The Family Violence Information Line on 0800 456 450 to find out about the organization's in your area who can help.Shine-Helpline-Logo

Call Shine's national helpline on 0508 744 633.

BOPDHB Referral -hyperlink

Last updated: January 24, 2019